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When Terrible Things Happen
Support & Resources for Traumatic Loss

  • We have compiled a list of resources and helpful tips on ways to support those that are grieving in the wake of a traumatic loss.  If you have a resource to share, please email us at




“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”   To This day, especially in times of "disaster," I remember my mother's words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers - so many caring people in this world.
― Mr. Rogers



Resources & Articles

Support & Resources on Coping with a Traumatic Loss


•  Helping a Homicide Survivor Heal - Article by by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. 
•  Coping with a Traumatic Event - CDC
•  SAMHSA Coping with Violence and Traumatic Events - SAMHSA
•  Natural Disaster Recovery Guide - by Dwight Bain
•  Finding Peace in Tragedy - Joel Osteen
•  Dealing with the Loss in Newport, Connecticut - Moving Forward
•  America Mourns the Sandy Hook Shootings - Gloria Horsley, International Grief Expert
•  In School Shootings, Patterns and Warning Signs - CNN
•  'If you do good, you'll feel good': Ann Curry explains origins of #26Acts of Kindness


  • Helping Children Heal after a Traumatic Loss

•  Talking Points: Helping Children Following School Violence - Traumatic Loss Coalition for Youth


  Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and TeachersNational Association of School Psychologists

•  Five Ways to Help Grieving Families After a Child Dies - The Compassionate Friends 


•  The Senseless Shootings: How To Talk With Your Children - National Alliance for Grieving Children 


•  How to Talk to Children About the Shootings: Calm Tone, Basic Facts - The Wall Street Journal 


•  Tips for Talking to Children About the ShootingNY Times 


•  Parents Grapple to Describe the Unthinkable




Books on Traumatic Loss

Grief Support Groups

    Loss of a Child


      The Compassionate Friends  The mission of The Compassionate Friends is to assist families toward the positive resolution of grief following the death of a child of any age and to provide information to help others be supportive.

      The Cope Foundation  COPE (Connecting Our Paths Eternally) is a non-profit grief and healing organization dedicated to helping parents and families living with the loss of a child.

      Bereaved Parents of the USA (BP/USA) is a national non-profit self-help group that offers support, understanding, compassion and hope especially to the newly bereaved be they bereaved parents, grandparents or siblings struggling to rebuild their lives after the death of their children, grandchildren or siblings.



    Grief Support for Homicide Survivors

    •  Community-Based Victim Assistance Programs  The easiest way to find a community-based victim assistance program is to call the National Crime Victim Information and Referral Hotline, operated by the National Organization for Victim Assistance. The toll-free number is 800-879-6682 (voice 24 hours a day; TTY Monday - Friday, 9:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m. Eastern Time).

    •  Compassionate Families  Compassionate Families, Inc. (CFI), is dedicated to serving the needs of homicide survivors, free of charge, regardless of race, religion, creed or financial standing. Serving the needs of all Homicide Survivors in Northeast Florida with immediate and long-term support, grief recovery assistance, and life rebuilding skills founded on a unique peer support and counseling program.

    •  ICAN-Crimes Victims Assistance Network  If you are a victim or survivor of violent crime or you know someone in need of assistance, please call us. The aftermath of a violent crime can be overwhelming. Most often we don’t know what to do or where to turn for help or for answers. The iCAN foundation is here to help.

    •  The National Center for Victims of Crime is the nation's leading resource and advocacy organization for crime victims and those who serve them. Since its inception in 1985, the National Center has worked with grassroots organizations and criminal justice agencies throughout the United States serving millions of crime victims.

    •  NCVC Get Help Series The Get Help Series provide basic information on a wide range of crime victim topics to increase awareness of the consequences of victimization and the options and resources available to help victims.

    •  National Organization for Victims Assistance Promoting rights and services for victims of crime and crisis everywhere.  Where to Find Help - There are crime victim assistance programs throughout the United States. Finding the most appropriate program may involve calling several different numbers. It is important not to give up easily. NOVA maintains a list of phone numbers, websites, and resources available here, of various assistance organizations.

    •  National Organization of Parents of Murdered Children, Inc. POMC makes the difference through on-going emotional support, education, prevention, advocacy, and awareness.

    •  Murder Victims Far too often, the victims are forgotten and the focus is placed on the perpetrator. Here we will come back to place focus on the victims of the most violent of crimes, murder. Victim survivors can come here to find help, ask questions, give and get advice.


    Grief Support for Children


    •  Children's Grief Connection  Children's Grief Connection, formerly known as Camp Amanda-Minnesota is a nonprofit organization providing grief programs for children and teens in partnership with Minnesota's funeral directors.

    •  Foundation for Grieving Children  The Foundation for Grieving Children, Inc. is the first national public charity specifically designed to raise funds and provide grants to organizations whose mission is to assist, counsel, comfort and educate children and families following the death of a loved one.

    •  Mourning Star Center  The Mourning Star Centers are dedicated to providing gentle and loving support to children and teens that are experiencing grief, often times resulting from the death of a parent or sibling. The Centers provide a supportive and safe environment which encourages the sharing of feelings to facilitate the process of healing.

    •  Ted E Bear Hollow  We create a safe environment for children, their loved ones and the communities in which they live to honor and embrace the experiences that accompany death and grief. Omaha, NE.

    •  The National Alliance for Grieving Children The National Alliance for Grieving Children promotes awareness of the needs of children and teens grieving a death and provides education and resources for anyone who wants to support them... Because all grieving children deserve a chance to heal.


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